Dr. James Thomas Cail was born on January 23, 1938 in Walters, Oklahoma, to Elmer Roy and Ila Marie (Barnes). He was called home on December 29, 2025 and spent his last days surrounded by family who loved and admired him.
He was the oldest of five (Bobby, Betty, Bo and Don) and is preceded in death by his parents and brother, Bobby Roy.
He is survived by his wife of 60 years, Judith Ann (Zirkle), as well as their children Dr. James Thomas (Trey) Cail III, Dr. Mindy Cail, Dr. Elizabeth McElroy, their beloved grandchildren, and many wonderful friends.
James was a lifelong lover of education. From Valedictorian for Purcell HS’s class of ’56, he was the first in his family to attend college—first at Central and Abilene Christian Colleges and later earning his doctorate from Baylor University.
He was accomplished in music, drama, debate, and performing. He paid his way through school driving the bus and, to our great benefit, working as a fry cook at the Dixie Pig. Cooking favorites like burgers, biscuits, pancakes, and pies nourished many a hungry guest’s body and soul, exemplifying his gift for hospitality.
He found his professional home, and his sweetheart Judy, at Oklahoma Christian College. He ‘set his cap’ for her, ‘marrying up’ on June 4, 1965. After earning his doctorate, James returned to OCC in 1971 as a Professor of Psychology, a position he held until his retirement in 2003. The auditorium where he held court and nurtured countless young minds now lovingly bears his name.
James was a man of both science and faith and served numerous churches through preaching, teaching, and singing. As a wise counselor to many, he harnessed psychological principles to improve the lives of others. We hold dear messages from myriad people who report that he saved their hope, their marriage, parent-child relationship, sometimes their very life. All this was delivered with his characteristic folksy charm, relatable stories, and a healthy dose of humor.
He was an avid golfer, loved all things British, grew roses and tomatoes, and loved antiques—most notably, his staggeringly large collection of Blue Willow dishes. Bonus facts: He earned several hole-in-one trophies. His pies once sold for $1000 each at an OC fundraiser. He really loved the OU Sooners, and he really hated the prevent defense. He was a champion at mumblety-peg but don’t tell my kids. James, Dad, Pappy—We love you more than goldfish. Thanks for comin’ to see us.
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